Sigh. As a society, have we gotten too damn sensitive???? Come on people. I am going to write about this here, because I REFUSE to take it up on Facebook. What the hell is wrong with people??? Why has Facebook become the place to crucify our friends???? For their thoughts... not EVEN their actions???
Today, a friend of mine made a statement.... she thought out loud... something that she would NEVER EVER do (and ANYONE who KNOWS her would KNOW this!) but she said it as a statement more on society than anything.
She said "she wished SOCIETY were different so she could leave her daughter at home for a few minutes while she ran to pick up her son down the road."
She did NOT say she was going to do it. She did not even say she wanted to do it. She said she wished our world was a safer place so that she could.
And wow....... did the comments come in fast and furious....... some going so far as to say they were shocked she would say this.... as if to imply they were disappointed in her.
Shame on you moms out there. You KNOW you have wished once or twice in your life you could run somewhere quickly without waking a sleeping child. Have you ever been so HAPPY to have your child sleeping that you would do ANYTHING to keep them sleeping?
Any stay at home mom know this feeling. Hell, most working moms feel the same.
Parenting is hard and exhausting and HARD! And we all make it worse on one another when we take a "holier than thou" attitude. I am so sick of it. I am so sick of everyone thinking they are a better parent than everyone esle. Who does that help????
I said out loud once, after spending a week with my child... alone... no help... that I could understand how some women want to drown their children. How someone could snap in an instant. Does that make me WANT to drown mine? Does it make me capable of it?
Hell no. It means I am an empathetic person.......... and I can see how another would feel so much pain they saw no other way out. Damn. What happened to empathy????
I suppose a whole bunch of you sit around and say I have difficult children because I am a bad parent too.
If so, you and me... we don't need to talk again. I'm over judgemental people. I'm over it.
This makes me miss lent and want to drop Facebook again.
People. Get real. Get off your high horse. You are not perfect either.
6 comments:
You could not have said this any better. We as moms need to learn to support one another and give praise, not criticism. I am really appalled that anyone would say a thing about your friends post.
A positive side - It may be an easy way for her to clean up her Facebook "friends" list :-))
LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE. Way to speak it sista! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!
UHM... I have so wished many times I could leave Hudson at home sleeping so I can drive 2 miles around teh corner and onto another road to get P from school. Because I know waking Hudson will result in a cranky, trying to wake up kiddo the entire way to school and back home. UGH. I wouldn't do it, but totally wish I could.
I agree. The judging is ridiculous. I tend to be pretty outspoken about my irritations with parenthood, and have been subject to many a rude, judgmental word for my parenting choices and my feeling (or lack of feeling) toward certain parenting topics. Whatevs... that's what I say. I try to keep it real and let's be honest.... parenting is not all frigging rainbows and lollipops and kisses and hugs. There are many days I have said "OMG I know why parents beat the crap out of their kids" because Uhm... my kids can drive me crazy. And if someone can come across so "holier than thou" and act like they're a perfect parent, that they've never been so pissed at their kids, or cussed at their kids or what not... well they've got to be on some nice ass drugs. :) HAHAHAH!
WHEW. Sorry. Blowing up your comment section.
Well said, Nicki!!!!! Why can't we support each other as Mom's? Hell, we should understand these kinds of thoughts more AS Mom's!! We should be supportive...not judgemental!!
I'm so over FB!!!!
I read this post on facebook yesterday and never thought she would have been ridiculed the way she was. After I read your blog post last night, I went back and read the comments that people left her. People are awful and so judgemental. I agree, I am SO over Facebook and I agree, maybe it's time for her to clean up her "friends" list.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. Motherhood is sacred. We all all doing the best we can and should support eachother as women and mothers. No judgement. Facebook is the root of all evil.
I am in the middle of a blog post about this very thing! SO over the judging!! I read said Facebook post. While I have only talked to said mother a few times, I know that she would NEVER endanger her children in any way. Mean people suck. Mean mommies suck even more.
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